You’re having the time of your life as you and your girlfriend answer the call of sexual passion. As satisfaction continues to take over your mind and body, your girlfriend gets an actual call and answers the phone. She doesn’t seem to mind, so … do you stop?

From now on during foreplay, do you have to put your phones in airplane mode?

‘Can You Feel Me Now?’

One man is understandably confused about the same situation. He reached out to Reddit’s r/ sex community for guidance as he thinks about how he feels.

The man said that as sex has become more routine with his girlfriend, she has “taken up to answering certain calls she gets while we have sex.”

“Just last night her sister called and maybe it was the position, doggy, but she’s like ‘oh it’s my sister’ and starts chit chatting with her. So I slow down my action since I figure, ya know, she’s on the phone,” /u Electronic_Bank9556 wrote. “I do admit in a weird way it was a little exciting. After she hung up, we finished.”

The OP made it sound like it was an odd situation that could generate insecurity but it’s not strange enough to stop having sex — which is fair.

“So is this completely weird that she does this? Could this mean that sex is getting boring to her? It’s not so much interfering with sex yet but idk,” he added.

Redditors suggested a few possibilities. The negative analysis of the situation is that she’s bored and that it’s a rude act. Some pointed that it’s also wrong to involve unwitting participants, like the girlfriend’s sister, in their deed.

Additionally, some said the girlfriend should not be answering the phone especially if the boyfriend seems apprehensive about it. But we don’t know if the girlfriend knows if what she’s doing is wrong, especially if the boyfriend also doesn’t know if what she’s doing is wrong.

“I think it’s rude of her to expose people to her kink without consent. I’m sure her sister would be grossed out and if I were you, I’d be annoyed she’s not present in the moment,” u/ lifeisshort84 wrote.

Other Redditors said that perhaps it’s part of an exhibitionist kink similar to having sex in public places. Some said that they understood the desire and shared their own anecdotes.

“I wouldn’t appreciate this as a regular thing, but to me it can be kinky, like an exhibition thing of sorts,” u/ comosedicewaterbed wrote. “I actually remember one time my ex answered the phone during sex and my response was to try even harder to make her moan. We both thought it was hot and it was a fun little secret for us.”

Here’s a genius idea for the OP: “Have your phone with you next time and call her yourself during the act,” u/ impulsive-puppy wrote.

So What Should You Do?

Regardless of all the internet commentary, it sounds like the OP needs to figure out how he feels and have a conversation with his girlfriend.

Maybe it’s not a significant enough issue to even bring up. It’s possible he may even begin enjoying the times it occurs. It’s also quite likely it makes him feel uncomfortable and insecure, meaning they should no longer answer calls.

A conversation could lead to reassurance that the girlfriend is not bored but is being efficient and pragmatic. As always, talk it out! Maybe it’s a little hot, too.

But, for all that is good and holy in the world, please make sure you don’t accidentally answer a video call.

Another interesting situation to navigate? Polyamory — read all about it in Playboy’s Guide to Open Relationships!