‘Tis the season and as you stand under the mistletoe with your wife or girlfriend, you have an idea that will really have her rockin’ around the Christmas tree. So — should you buy her a sex toy?
The foundation of giving someone a present is generally to make them feel happy. It’s supposed to be a good thing. A sex toy, in theory, is meant to give someone pleasure.
Let’s keep that in mind as we navigate the possibility. Though a tricky idea for a gift, it is in no way wrong or foolish. It all depends on the relationship you have.
What Could Go Wrong?
First and foremost, you’re the one who knows your girlfriend. If you considered all her likes and dislikes and still think it’s a good idea, then do it! If she asked you for a sex toy for Christmas, then why are you reading this? Fly, you fools!
If you’re not too confident, then take a moment to come up with a strategy. There’s still plenty of time before the holidays are in full swing so if you’re sexually active, maybe bring up using toys during foreplay or sex to see her reaction.
You may also approach the subject by wanting to have a conversation with her about her Christmas gift. Go into the talk with clear and honest intentions, reinforcing to her why you think it’s a good idea that will really make her bells jingle.
She may love, hate or be unsure about the idea of a sex toy for Christmas. It’s definitely a risky gift but that’s not rare for the holiday season. Who hasn’t taken a chance buying someone a gift hoping that they will like it? Even now, I’ve bought gifts I’m not sure have ever been used.
It’s all part of the beautiful holiday racket.
If you buy it, definitely keep the receipt and read the store’s return policy. You usually can’t return sex toys if they’ve been opened.
Oh — and please, for all that is holy, make sure her family isn’t around when she opens the gift.
Good Holiday Vibrations
One man who wants his girlfriend to have the most wonderful time of the year reached out to Reddit’s r/ sex community because he’s pondering a purchase.
“I (19M) am considering surprising my girlfriend (19F) with a mini vibrator for christmas. It would just be a little stocking stuffer, as we have not discussed this previously, and I don’t want her to feel pressured into using it if she doesn’t want to,” u/ texas-snowman wrote. “I just want to know if this is a good idea or not.”
Redditors had some fair points in response.
“Unless she’s expressed an interest in one, this has a reasonable chance of backfiring on you. Among other things, if she’s religious, she might find it inappropriate,” u/ ra__account wrote.
“Yes you should talk to your girlfriend about incorporating sex toys into your play, no you should not surprise her with a sex toy on Christmas,” u/ zephyrseija2 wrote.
“The best thing to do is 1) discuss it first to see if it’s even something she’s interested in, and then if so, 2) go with her to a sex shop so you can both look at things together and pick one out that she’ll like,” u/ celestialism wrote.
