In 2025, there are countless social spheres within the realm of content creation, but almost none as captivating as sex, dating and relationships. Sex expert (or “sexpert”) Oloni Baby is an industry leader in this field, and she’s here to ensure we’re all living our best love lives.
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Oloni is well versed in everything from relationships to digital media to pop culture. A British native, she is also a published author and accomplished podcaster in the dating space. Her talent and work ethic are both top tier, which leaves her burgeoning success as no surprise.
Despite residing on separate continents, PLAYBOY’s Gabriel Santiago was fortunate enough to land a brief chat with Oloni, evoking memories, stories, dating advice and future plans all the like!
PLAYBOY: Let’s start at the beginning—where were you born & raised?
Oloni: I’m from London! Actually, Paddington to be more specific. Fun fact: Paddington is home to St. Mary’s Hospital, which is where Princess Diana had both of her children. Many other royalty were born there, as well.
PLAYBOY: What inspired you to start doing content creation for relationships?
Oloni: When I was 16 to 18 years old, I saw a lot of women my age that made content about beauty, relationships and lifestyle. I loved those things, but I was more passionate about dating and relationships. It was what I spent most of my time doing.
I was always on the phone talking to my friends about a boy or a new guy, or they told me about their situations. We’d give each other advice or try to get to the nitty-gritty of why things are the way they are when it comes to the opposite sex.
PLAYBOY: What was some of your early material?
Oloni: I started back then by doing content on MySpace and Blogspot. I began by writing different articles inspired by Carrie Bradshaw from Sex in the City. Overall, I really like talking about dating, relationships and love from the millennial point-of-view, or simply a 20-something-year-old Black woman from London! After all, I’m a second-generation immigrant. My mom was born in Nigeria. There are definitely cultural and dating differences that are important to have conversations about.
PLAYBOY: Tell me about your recent work The Big O: An Empowering Guide to Loving, Dating and F*cking.
Oloni: The Big O is of course a spin on my name, Oloni, and the orgasm gap. The book is meant to be a way to teach women from different cultures and backgrounds who weren’t really given the sex education that they needed growing up. And in a way, while writing it, the book gave me the sex education I needed as well. Upon doing the research, there’s so many things that have been left out and haven’t been touched on or we weren’t really educated about from the orgasm gap to our reproductive health.
The Big O is a way for women to reclaim their sexuality and teach them how to have better sex with their partners and themselves, as well. I find that when people hear the word “sex,” they first think of the pleasure aspect, but then there’s also beauty in educating yourself and learning. I feel like a lot of women don’t have those tools. Hey, there is education to pleasure!
PLAYBOY: In modern dating, is body count actually important?
Oloni: No, I don’t think so. When you’re younger, it was definitely a conversation, but I think that’s because we were all sexually inexperienced. Body count is something that is a conversation to hold over women’s heads. I think it’s a double standard. Not only do I think it’s outdated, I think that it’s a warped concept.
At the end of the day, we’re all sexual beings, and I feel like body count is not a topic that should be discussed amongst the public. We are not cars and we do not have mileage. Really, the conversation should be about sexual health.
PLAYBOY: Let’s say a first date goes poorly. Is that a relationship that can be salvaged?
Oloni: That depends! What are the red flags? Does he have someone who’s constantly calling him, like an ex who he has unfinished business with? Are these red flags calling him way too much after the date? Is it just nerves that didn’t make the date go as well as it could have? If the nerves felt only a little awkward, then I would say give it another shot. But if these are alarming red flags, as a woman, please keep it moving.
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PLAYBOY: What sort of conversations happen on the Laid Bare podcast?
Oloni: We talk about everything from our most intimate stories in the bedroom to our dating conundrums. We answer dilemmas from our listeners, which we call them “Laid Barers.” We also talk about pop culture and hip-hop. I’m a huge fan of hip-hop. That is my bread and butter. I grew up on hip-hop, so I always find a way to incorporate that and a bit of pop culture into anything I do.
PLAYBOY: Going forward, what can PLAYBOY readers expect to see from you?
Oloni: I would say to keep an eye out! I’ve got a lot of projects coming up, but I’m not allowed to talk about them. More writing, more things on the podcast, and perhaps a brunch on International Women’s Day, March 8!
PLAYBOY: What are some aspects of life that make you feel most beautiful?
Oloni: I think going to the gym is one thing that makes me feel really beautiful. They know what they’re doing by having those huge mirrors in most gyms, because you really do start to feel yourself. My hair might not look the greatest or I might be wearing my dorky glasses, but I always feel the endorphins.
Also, I think when you know that you’re going to look great naked, it’s even better. I’m all about health and exercising for your heart, but the majority of people want to look great naked—that is why they go to the gym. But in general, it’s just a mood booster!
PLAYBOY: Presently, what does a day in the life of Oloni Baby look like?
Oloni: For me, it starts by going through my to-do list of work that I have, which could be editing content for my podcast, or maybe doing some visual content. I’ll do that after getting my breakfast in the morning. Then, I go to the gym. I’ll be on the treadmill while going through my to-do list, admin work for filming content, and making sure my day is in order. In the afternoon, I grab some lunch, and then possibly brainstorming ideas with my team again, then it could be me going to an event in the evening. I’m often invited to premieres, or it could be an industry event. I’ll say this—no day is ever the same!
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