There’s a hypocritical stigma regarding sex work. While sex work, including stripping, escorting, camming, pornography and more, is an industry worth billions that’s used by millions, sex workers are looked down upon by many in society.
Sex workers are courageous and deserve respect. But how do you navigate your feelings and relationship if your girlfriend tells you she wants to enter the sex work profession?
What to Do If Your Girlfriend Wants to Get Into Sex Work
Your girlfriend’s decision to enter sex work is deeply personal. Respect her autonomy.
Hypothetical scenario: Your girlfriend wants to enter sex work such as camming or an internet content subscription service like The Playboy Club. Maybe she’s already told you. Maybe you see it coming and want to prepare.
When she tells you, listen actively and respectfully. Hear her out fully in an open and honest conversation where you can share your feelings and concerns.
Entering sex work can change the dynamics of your relationship. It’s important to talk about how this might affect your intimacy, communication and overall relationship. There may also be a significant emotional impact on you and your girlfriend so you both must be aware of the potential risks.
Sex work can be dangerous and it’s important to discuss safety. Whether it’s virtual or in-person, it’s important to consider precautions. Screening clients, meeting in public places and filming in a place that can’t be recognized or located are all things to consider. If this things worry you, discuss your concerns about the topic. Offer to help her research resources and connect with other sex workers so you may both navigate this new world together.
Ultimately, you may not be comfortable with her choice. Remaining together in spite of that could generate resentment and damage to the relationship. Remember: the decision of entering sex work is up to her. The decision of whether or not to continue your relationship is entirely up to you.
Case Study of a Relationship
One man reached out to Reddit’s r/ sex community after his girlfriend told him she wanted to create content for OnlyFans.
“I feel like an asshole for this. I probably should, but I feel like it’s fair for me to say no. She’s clearly not happy with my answer but has agreed not to do it,” u/ NamelessOfficial wrote. “Should I feel bad for saying no? I just feel like my family and friends would eventually find out and that’d just become a mess.”
While there’s no certainty that his friends or family would ever find out, and while we don’t know how seriously he considered his girlfriend’s wishes, his feelings are valid.
Redditors were supportive of the OP.
“Just tell her, ‘If that’s what you want, it’s your choice, but I won’t be in a relationship with you.’ She controls her. You control you,” u/ tinyinfinities wrote.
“Not an asshole OP. It’s OK if you don’t want a partner who engages in sex work. It’s also OK if she really wants to since it’s her body and she can make money off it if she wants. And it’s OK if this means you two are incompatible,” u/ chipmunksocute wrote.
One Redditor shared a personal experience that’s worth a read:
While we’re on the topic of girlfriends and sex, ever considered talking to her about trying out anal?
