The Forbidden Fruit: Tips for Anilingus — a.k.a. ‘Eating Ass’

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Humans seek pleasure and the anus has a high concentration of nerve endings that can cause sexual stimulation. What more do you need?

Officially, it’s called anilingus. Unofficially, you’ve heard of it as rimming, tossing the salad or — quite simply — as eating ass.

It’s not complicated. Humans naturally seek pleasure and the anus has a high concentration of nerve endings, meaning it can be an area for sexual pleasure (known as an erogenous zone).

Some love to receive while others love to give. It’s an example of “don’t knock it ‘til you try it” and it’s absolutely fair if you don’t. But if there’s mutual consent, live your best backdoor lives.

As with any sex act, it’s important to prioritize safety. Anal-oral sex can be safe and enjoyable if precautions are taken, including proper cleaning considering the threat of contact with feces.

A Step Into the Anal Unknown

One woman joined Reddit’s r/sex community seeking advice because her boyfriend has “always been an ass guy” and he asked if “he can eat my ass when we meet.”

“Now I’ve typically been against like … butt stuff but I also kind of want to do it but I have no idea where to start,” u/ throwRA_208877 wrote.

Supportive Redditors, some of whom “love tossing a nice clean salad” themselves, recommend the OP consider her comfort levels, communicate, set boundaries and keep things clean.

“Anything related to new sexual experiences, the key is communication. Just tell him you reserve the right to stop at any time and ask that he goes slow,” u/ Water_Logia wrote. “Typically people say that have their ass ate is one of the most amazing feelings so take a little time to prepare, set some boundaries, and trust your partner. It’ll probably be an amazing time.”

How to clean for anal play depends on the circumstances, according to Redditors. Some say a soapy shower with extra ass-emphasis is enough, while others recommend using an anal douche or a bidet for a better clean.

“Soap and water, unless you decide that penetration is on the table. In that case you could look into doing an enema. But if he just wants to eat it, then soap and water should suffice. Then let him eat the booty like groceries,” u/ CanesVenetici wrote.

“A flavored, anti-microbial lube can’t hurt,” u/ intoto wrote.

“Rim jobs are fantastic, feel fantastic and no reason to get anxious over it. consent can always be revoked for any reason at all, even if you just aren’t feeling it at the time which is a perfectly good reason,” u/ blinddruid wrote.

Sex act preferences exist on a very wide spectrum and it’s advisable not to make your partner feel inadequate or weird for wanting or not wanting to participate in something like ass-eating.

Florida Famous

Plenty of people eat ass! Take this Florida man famously arrested because he “likes free speech and eating ass.”


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