One day you’re happily married and blissfully unaware. The next, your wife tells you she’d love to be “fucked by other men” in a feverish group sex fantasy.
You may still be happily married but now there’s a layer of your shared sex life you didn’t know existed. How does that make you feel? What should you do?
Well, Reddit user dash-geek-alone sought the r/sex community’s advice. He said he and his wife watch porn together and that she becomes particularly keen during group sex scenes.
“I am guessing she has a fantasy about it, because in one of our dirty talks, she said, she would love to be fucked by other men, while I watch,” u/ dash-geek-alone wrote on the “Wife turns on for group sex” post.
An important aspect to consider is that just because someone might be turned on by a porn genre, it does not necessarily mean they want to experience that themselves.
Additionally, if a person makes a statement during dirty talk, then it’s imperative to approach respectfully because they may feel judged for saying something in what’s expected to be a safe space.
“Just because something turns you on or you like it as a fantasy, does not mean that you actually want to do it IRL,” /u Working_Loan5242 pointed out.
Many commenters urged caution about discussing the subject, even more caution for acting on it. The community suggests the OP self-reflect about group sex before communicating with his wife.
“You should first of all, decide what your own boundaries are (what are you comfortable with?). After you’ve decided that, you could have a talk with her, and let her know you’ve noticed she’s really into that porn in particular and ask her about it,” /u Peachesandcream-xo wrote.
A dissenting voice, /u TheRealDylanTobak, said “Too many people in here are advising against trying it out. I say do it. It’s like kids and spinach. You can’t know that you don’t like it if you don’t try it.”
Another, provided perspective on group sex in simpler terms.
“You can’t unwatch another man fuck your wife,” /u Tot_tater wrote.
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