Maybe your girlfriend knows you enjoy watching porn. Maybe you’ve been enjoying it in secret, perhaps out of guilt or shame. But now, you want to bring her into the fold and adjust how you Netflix and chill.
Porn — like countless other sexual preferences, kinks and fetishes — is a normal aspect of sexuality in the modern age. It may not be for everyone, and while there’s a danger of overindulging as with pretty much everything in life, porn should not generate feelings of shame or guilt.
Pornography can be used to improve your sex life and to assist with masturbation. So if having sex and masturbation is OK, then why wouldn’t porn be OK?
How to Talk About Watching Porn Together
You want to make things interesting in the bedroom — maybe even get some inspiration from others — so you think porn could be the key.
Do you know how your girlfriend feels about porn? There are a lot of possibilities. She may like, dislike, love, hate or be neutral about porn. Regardless of how she feels about porn, it’s important for you to express yourself and be honest with her.
Whether she agrees to try out watching porn together and not, she will hopefully treat you with the respect and consideration you deserve if you approached the topic with good intentions and honesty.
Maybe you start watching sensual movies together before elevating to softcore porn. Communicate your desires and understand that it may take some time for her to get comfortable with the idea.
Compromise is ideal. Everyone has preferences and kinks. Maybe you both can explore hers together by watching porn related to her fetishes.
Remember that watching porn together is meant to satisfy a desire that you wish to share so it can enhance your overall intimacy and communication.
Should you have moral apprehensions, there are ethical porn websites that prioritize the well-being and consent of performers, ensuring fair compensation, safe working conditions and transparency in production, as well as depicting performers in intimate situations that are nonviolent. Many websites claim to be ethical, but it’s difficult to tell sometimes in such a nontransparent industry. Some ethical porn websites recommended by Playboy include LustCinema, MakeLoveNotPorn.TV and Bellesa.
Watching Porn Is Normal!
One man reached out to Reddit’s /r sex community to ask for advice on how he can begin watching porn with his wife. He said they have a decent sex life and he wants to get her to watch along while they have sex.
“Am I a pervert? How do I get her to watch and be comfy?” u/ Creative_Joke5714 wrote.
Redditors supported the OP but also were direct in telling him that what’s most important is he respectfully communicate with his wife.
I don’t think you’re a pervert and neither does this Redditor: “We watch porn from time to time with my wife and I don’t think we are perverts,” u/ Tonton_jacob wrote. “This can give ideas while remembering that it remains porn and that it is very often not reality ;)”
A perspective offering realistic expectations: “Ease into it, and be vulnerable. It may result in a challenging conversation, but it might also result in your fantasy,” u/ Fractal514 wrote. “Also, be prepared for questions about why you look at porn and if she isn’t enough for you. It might not go there, but don’t be surprised. I would also suggest that if she’s not into it, you drop it and don’t pester. Just my $0.02.”
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