They make it look so easy in the movies, but in real life it always sounds dumb and cringeworthy. How exactly are you supposed to talk dirty to your partner in a way that’s hot and not utterly embarrassing?
It’s a very fine line, and a subject of tremendous debate.
On Reddit’s sex sub, one of the hottest questions this weekend is the mystery of what kind of dirty talk to use with a girlfriend when she’s about to orgasm.
“I am not creative enough to come up with things to say; I just usually end up saying something like ‘Good’ or ‘Cum for me’, but those get old very fast,” u/Good-Bench5060 asked the community, in search of advice for something better to say.
Thankfully, there are Opinions on the Internet, and the members of the sub had plenty to offer.
“My wife seems to like when I get bossy with her about it. If I know she’s getting close I’ll tell her to do it “right now” or something. And when she’s in the middle of it, I’ll tell her to keep going, or don’t stop. On the flip side, sometimes I’ll make her the boss and say “please” and that seems to be a different kind of hot to her. But ultimately, I don’t know how much the words really matter. She just says that she likes it when I talk to her during it. Maybe I’ll get experimental and throw in a “boom-shakalaka” next time,” u/5-4EqualsUnity wrote in a highly upvoted response.
(Editor’s Note: Playboy does not recommend saying “boom-shakalaka” to your partner at the moment of orgasm, but that’s just us.)
There seemed to also be a number of well-liked responses in the general genre of praise. (Praise kinks are hot, trust us.)
“‘That’s my girl’ is my number one favorite. My bf says it to me during and even not during sex. I immediately get wet when he says it in a normal setting,” u/Senior-Watercress-72 wrote.
“‘Good girl’. Not good job. Specifically ‘Good girl’,” u/Hicon84 agreed, and u/MagicFlowerSparkle had maybe the best response to that of all.
Bedroom dirty talk is really an age-old debate, and one TikTok creator put it well when she said, simply, “you need to get comfortable with what’s leaving your mouth.”